Category: Singles Spit Swap
Hey, x's Anna. I'm 13. I have brown hair and blue eyes. Anyway, I'm a lesbian. I'm trying to find a girlfriend. So if you private message or post something on here, that'd be cool. I don't care how old you are either.
grow up a bit, then start looking.
lol damn. 13? I'd suggest you wait a couple years. then start to look again
Just fucking wow!
oy vay to the last post, don't be mean.
I will gently agree with what the others have said here. 13 is a little young, especially over the internet sweety. You don't know what kind of creepers inhabit this site either. Believe me, there are a few.
I understand you want someone special, but don't go looking for it so hard just yet.
Agreed with Cala. It's good you're in touch with your sexuality at such a young age, but you're a bit young to be looking so hard, and you're definitely too young to say that age doesn't matter. Wait till you're 18 for that.
I'm one of the creepers that cala mentioned. hahaha.
I agree with what everyone has said thus far except the fucking wow poster. Give it some time.
If you need a friend, feel free to message me.
Read your other post on what I said about sex. Be careful who you talk to and who you trust online and in real life. Both Guys and some girls like to take advantage of young girls and you might end up in a situation that could hurt you. Like I said, message me any time if you want to talk.
Sorry, I know others will frown on this response, but someone has to give this girl something besides pats on the back and useless snide comments.
You aren't a lesbian. You are just young and are too soaked in modern over-sexualized culture.
You should be reading books and thinking about school, not looking for pre-teen lesbian lovers on the internet.
Ok, while I may think that thirteen is a little young for her to know if she is a lesbian or not, who are you to say if she is or isn't? Is entirely possible that she is, perhaps she is wise beyond her years or something. For you to say that she isn't just because she is young is rather close minded.
As for the orriginal poster of this board, slow down a little, whether or not you find someone who is a guy or a girl, thirteen is a time for fun and freedom. Don't tie yourself down so tightly so soon. Have some fun first. Plus, with you being thirteen, age is something you should worry about as your still illegal in all states I know of.
Ozgar9, I looked at your profile, and nowhere do you indicate that you are a mind-readeror a psychic, so I find it a bit presumptuous that you're defining the sexuality of a girl about whom you probably know nothing. As Silver Lightning said, such talk makes you look extremely narrow-minded, as well as arrogant.
Becky and Cody, I totally agree with both of you! Amen!
Ozgar9, You shouldn't go around telling anyone what they aren't or what they might be. You don't know anything about the way Anna was raised, any of her passed experiences, and anything she's discovered about herself.
While it is a bit early for a young teen to decide on such a serious matter, I think it's good that she's not in the closet about this completely, and that she's okay with being lesbian, and obviously not embarrassed about it. So many teens have trouble admitting or identifying their sexuality.
um ok honey the zone is def not a place to look. I mean my bf and I met on there, but still this site is filled with lots of creeps and just drama.. I suggest you do a little thinking before you put yourself out like this next time
I'd say that you should get to know some people instead of posting about this. Then whatever relationships you develop, take it from there.
yeah I agree with Raven, you can't just put yourself out like this.
Wow, louis!
Hello Anna
It's rachel here.
It's your right to date someone, look for someone, and be gay, but I do have some advice for you.
If you want love, it's better not to look for a girl, but it's much better to wait and see if your friendships leads to anything. It'll come easier, and when it comes it'll be much nicer too.
Ozgar9, don't tell me what I am or what I'm not when you hardly know anything about me. And yeah, I do read books and think about school.
Since you're thirteen, alot of people over the age of eighteen are probably going to watch what they say to u because you're a minor and we're adults. If u were eighteen, i'd consider dating u.
13 is way too young to be posting things like this. You have to be very careful, especially with relationships because you might get the wrong pEnjoy your life now while you can, because believe me, it does get pretty hard when you get past 18. Don't put yourself out here on the internet because it can be very dangerous.erson, and the relationship will end up bad. you never know how
in a sense i have to say you are too young to look for a gf, but, i don't judge, so i won't say that... if you are mature enough to know your heart, then, go for it, just be careful, people will take advantage, or lead you on, trust me hun i've been there, that did happen to me...
ok i'll be carefull
Hey. I am 23 gay and do think you definitely need some growing up honey. you have a lot to experience in your teens before you even should think about going steady.
What in the world happened to my post? I had so many freaking typos on there. lol Seemed like I was writing Kindergarten style.
how old do u think i should be before i find a gf?
Maybe18and over.
You should just enjoy your teanage years.
Since you're still so young you should really use the time to experiment. If you want a girlfriend so much the that's fine, but at your age you shouldn't put your heart on the line. There'll be plenty of time for that when you're an adult. You may feel sure of yourself now but you'd be surprised how you continue to learn more and more about yourself as you grow up.
WOW, so not the kind of bord I thought this would be.
reguarding last post, what the hell kind of board did you think would come of singles spit swap with the mentallity and immaturity of this place?
well what kind of board did you think this would be? but a lot of girls in my class have boyfriends, so why shouldn't i have a girlfriend?
If a lot of girls in your class grew up to be hookers, why shouldn't you be? You don't have to be like the girls in your class... you do your own thing for your own reasons. If the main reason you want a girlfriend is because there aren't very many single people around you then you'll end up getting hurt - I've seen it happen.
That's not the only reason but one of them. The main one is that I just want a girlfriend.
So it's ultimately circular? You want a girlfriend because you want a girlfriend? Well I can't really say anything to that except use your best judgement. If it's a case of wanting to experiment then that's fine - you are young after all. If it's for closeness then that's a good reason to want a girlfriend, but like I said earlier, you want to be careful about it. That's all the advice I can give. Good luck.
I was exspecting a post about a girl looking for a girlfriend. Not a child looking for a girlfriend of any age! There was a bit more to it I wasn't exspecting to see. I thought maybe something crazy was going on with all the posting on this post so I red to see what was so exciteing about a girl looking for a girlfriend.
A child? How could I be considered a child? I mean I know I'm not an adult but a child...
It seems that above my post, are some posts by lesbian hypocrites. They expect people to tolerate their homosexuality, but they don't seem to be tolerant of Bluebutterfly's homosexuality because she is thirteen.
If she wants a GF at 13, and she finds a girl or even a 52-year-old Turricane who wants to be with her, the lesbians who are currently against that ought to be as tolerant as they want others to be of them.
It isn't as if all adults know everything there is to know about relationships. Some people who are under 18 know more than people who are a lot older than 18.
Thank you senior, I agree. I was also starting to feel that Anna is being picked on unnecessarily and not just by the gays here. Folks, she’s definitely going through a hard time and this harshness is not necessarily the best method. I find, when I go through hard times, it’s much better to hear kind words, and I hope you can respect Anna to do that for her.
Anna:
No, you aren’t a child, but not an adult either, I just like to call us teens to be fair. And, you are a very young teen, you just came out of childhood, 12, and now is 13.
I’ll be the first to admit, it’s hard with this generation along with finding a mate. I feel you. My sister is your age, and she has noticed as well. She told me at dinner tonight that people were so obsessive with finding a love one and how she didn’t like it. I’ll tell you, you aren’t in this alone and it’s not fair for others to make you feel this way. I’ll tell you, I went through a slightly milder version of it, although, I didn’t voice any of it. I know you are trying to manage the game of life, and you are doing well, however you have things to learn, and that’s perfectly all right. We all have to learn in life, I’ve learnt this year. Perhaps in a very difficult way, but I have.
Now, to address your question, on when to date, there is no set time limit. People generally say 16 or 18. I remember being really in to this debate because I wanted a relationship too, because it was the norm, but I wanted to be socially appropriate, so I tried to find out. What I’ve learnt is it does not matter what age it is, it could be now, or you could be 50. The thing is love is not sought for like some things on a shelf of a store. It’s discovered by the game of relationships. Within your friends or people you meet the one you feel the most comfortable with could be a possible canadate. Remember this isn’t like, or care for either. It’s this deep value of desire for, and a whish for them to be a part of you, so you are inseparable. Also you have to be comfortable to talk to them about family, life, sex, and everything a couple should. You must have the maturity level to do that, so when you get to that point, and you really truly find a person by way of searching amongst the people you know and not by using a ad on line, then it’s the right time.
An add could be extremely dangerous. I’ve seen it, we all have. You know, The people who has posted stuff on myspace, and have been raped for it? You also don’t know the true identity of the person in question online and what they can do to you.
Hope you well with your relationships
Rachel
Yeah, I agree with Rachel and senior. Some of my friends that I like as girlfriends, aren't lesbians. So it seems like that makes it even harder to find someone.
Unfortunately in this world today, it’s not all excepting and most communications can’t even go smoothly, because the world is just horrible when it comes to people and how you talk to them. Anyways, because the world is so closed to homosexuals it can be a bit tough. If your girlfriends are not homosexual it’s better to just find someone else, because if you force dating on them, then you get another set of complications. Besides, force isn’t the solution to anything, as we saw the extremes of it in Hitler. (that’s not a threat to you) I have hope for you and know you will eventually find a girl of your dreams! You can do it!!!!! Atempt, attempt, and attempt again! That’s the best you can do. Just remember going out of your way to do it might not be a good idea!
Yeah, it's kind of hard. I hope I find her too.
aww anna, i have faith in you, i'm sure you'll find that right person. It might not be right this second, but there's someone out there for everyone. Now if i could only tell myself the same thing
Why can't you? I know you will, someday, just don't rush the friendships, your friends won't like it, and looking online isn't such a good idea.
Why isn't looking online a good idea? If it isn't, what's the whole point of the singles board on here?
You know, it seems like a lot of people are jumping to extremes. anna never once said, I want to meet someone, fall desperately in love with them, get married and move to virginia. She just said she wanted a girlfriend. I had a girlfriend at thirteen. I don't see anything wrong with having one, I don't think I'd have sex at that age, but I'm not anna.
having said that, I say this, anna, if you feel right in having a girlfriend, or a friend with benefits, and making out of having sex or doing any thing with that girl, good. I'm glad you can find so early, what so many people look for years to find, and sometimes never find. I wish you the best of luck, but I warn you, its going to hurt sometimes, but learn from your mistakes, that why you make them.
As for dating online, I think there's nothing wrong with it. The people that get raped and murdered, are the rare people who meet someone, and then go and meet them in person, without getting to know them, or doing anything else. Talk to someone on the phone and that kind of thing. Its pretty easy to tell a fifty year old man from a fourteen year old girl on the phone. besides, more people get raped walking down the street at night, then do those that meet people and it happens to them. I still go out at night, and I don't know anyone who stays in their house because the streets are dangerous.
That is my advice, I hope it helps you anna.
Agreed with post 44. I started young, whether right or wrong, it happens every day. My neighbor's 10 year old boy had a gf until she moved away. GF/BF stuff is part of socially maturing, and if she feels she's ready to start looking, why shouldn't she? I wouldn't say "any age" because 13 is jail bate for any one over the age of 18. But, well, I don't see the harm in her looking. However, I do agree, be careful, there are idiots out there, and that goes whether it's face to face or online...
The reason I said any age was because I haven't seen any other lesbians or bi girls under 18 besides Jess, and she already likes someone. Lol, the boy was ten?
It's ok to hav a bf or a gf at a yung age. I had my first bf at age 12. My point is, right now Anna, any adult who gets involved with u to a certain level, might hav to deal with some serious consequences. As for online dating, it's ok but it's not really my thing.
Wait a moment, tilly, If it's not your thing, why are you looking for one on your board?
And, virginia? Why mention Virginia, in particular?
Are there any lesbians under 18?
I'm not sure about lezbians, as many girls under 18 are still working out their sexuality at that point, but I'm sure there are plenty of self-proclaimed female bisexuals.
i wonder, are you sure you really want a girlfriend as someonoe wanting a someone in relationship, or more wanting a best friend, someone that you can share everything with? cause, with everything you say, sound for me, you wanting a girl friend, a best girl friend, that can share things, that can do things together, and someone that can understand you. and that doesn't mena to have a girlfriend in a relationship way. you can still love your friends, love your best girl friend, but that doesn't mean to say, that you necessary needing a girlfriend in a relationship, or in a loveship kind of way, unless you are thinking of some sort of illegal sexual activity with your girl partner if you have one...
and don't let anyone else in your school influence you, people have girlfriends, or boy friends doesn't mean anything when they are 13. it is more, a thing for them to show off in front of others. and amuse about each other boy friends.
you don't necessary want to do something, or commit something to it, untill when you are at least 16, where you are old enough to decide about your real identity.
take it slowly, form friendship, and if down the track, you think, you wanting a girlfriend in other way such as sexual or, i don't know, some other way besides being a normal best girl friend, you can persue it later....
But I'm sure I want a girlfriend.
anna, u cant rush it, u just have to wait for the right person. You just cant go up to someone and be like, be my girlfriend cause I need one, u have to really know what u want and be committed to that person. I know waiting is hard, and I dont have a lot of pacients either, but just give it time and good things come to those who wait. trust me
okay, may i ask, in the age of 13, why you want a girlfriend? why you want to commit yourself in to a serious relationship?
Well, some people may have the maturity level to be in a serious relationship, as long as it doesn't become sexual. I know I did, but maybe I'm a rare case. I say it shouldn't become sexual because no 13-year-old is ready for that. Now, if you're saying that a 13-year-old shouldn't enter into a relationship because they might rush into sex, then I think you have a valid point, but that's where maturity comes in, it's really an individual thing.
Would just kissing be considered sexual?
No, as long as it doesn't lead to anything else.
Ok. So if I'm too young to have a girlfriend, what about a lesbian around my age just to have as a friend?
I don't know about anyone else, but if I was the poster of this topic, I'd just stop listening and find another way to get what I wanted. gosh! I had what a kid might consider a boyfriend when I was 11. It wasn't serious, we never faught, and I broke up with him when I was 13 because I was going to a new school and wanted to date other boys. Till this day I don't count most of those relationships. Also I took some risks because an older and maybe irresponsible kid turned me on to the chatline, the last place for a 13 year-old blind girl whose been sheltered all her life. I don't think saying things like what does this kid know or you should wate helps much. Lol You still want a girlfriend, don't you? and You also made a good point. Why warn you against the idea when some of you did it? *do as I say, not as I do* Personally I know what kind of a teenager I was and looking around, it aint getting any better (not chriticising you or saying you're this type of person, just attempting to make a point) Its that age where you go temperarilly deaf and yes, it friggin matters what other people think, very much so! To find out weather or not its something you actually want or like, you have to try it! I wish the best of luck to you. I hope you don't feel guilty for how you feel due to the responses you've received. I'd hate to know that you were hurt or taken advantage in anyway, so please be safe however you decide to explore. If god forbid it happens, I hope you come out swining, and a stronger better person because of it, and create memories to laugh at yourself about. Everyone else, don't forget that you were once 13 and just try to understand what that might mean to the poster.
I agree with you, Chippie. I know all of the girls in my class have kissed boys and been on dates.
i agree with chippy as well.
you do what you want, but a lesbian as a friend, that for me is where a relationship should start, as a friend, then best friend, then over time, progress to more...
that makes things feelings evolve and you know if you'd really like that person...
Yeah, I'd like to have it be like that, so I'd know if I'd really wanna date that person lol.
good luck. smile.
good. luck. and all the best.
agreed/. this is not the place to look..